Tuesday, February 28, 2006
I didn't think "I overslept" would be a good excuse.
Heh. No. Did you get some rest?
Not really. Like an hour.
We went back and forth for an hour or so, then talked about some last-minute information about the bus ride and flights, and then, hours too soon and months too late:
OK babe, I'm heading down to the CAC to grab some chow then I'm on my way
OK, m'love, come to me--I'll be here waiting.
As though as a message, a jet flies overhead, all I can hear as I see his avatar log off and know he's taking the first steps (literally--they walk everywhere) of his journey home to me. Only for a month before he goes again, this time, but still--I tremble.
And a beautiful poem from the same blog
I could've written this, any number of times.
Sunday, February 26, 2006
How severe a punishment do ride-by butt-smacks warrant?
Living here would make it tough to give an address
Is this blog legal? Or are the MP3s?
This looks interesting, with a less than legal hack for those who'd do that kind of thing
Poke looks like more work than just playing the game to get your stuff/money.
Broke and Broker?
I could think of so-much-better things to do with a secret room than grow pot.
Damn but I'd like to be on some sort of global culinary journey--I'm starting here.
Neurogenesis (brain-growing/rebuilding) versus cages--or cubicles
Saturday, February 25, 2006
A place to stick a knife
Scream Queens--I love Christina Ricci and Fairuza Balk the best--because I loved them as children, even then destined for this page (As Wednesday Addams and as Mildred Hubble in the made-for-HBO, Tim Curry/Charlotte Rae Worst Witch--I really need copies of all 3 of those, come to think).
How you know reality shows have gone too far
Friday, February 24, 2006
Thursday, February 23, 2006
I appreciate what these guys are doing--on the other hand, this may just encourage Phelps to get louder and turn these services into even bigger circuses.
Your blogger has the flu, so not much today. Time for a soak in the tub and a rest before work.
Wednesday, February 22, 2006
I know too many people with chronic tinnitus (from chronic illness or medication reactions, not loud music) to think this is anything but a potential godsend. Hope it works.
Also cool. I'll be hunting for this link if I ever take up camping.
I knew I was weird. I'd use at least half of these.
Now this is a neat idea. Sit in chair, vacuum out air, voila! a chair that conforms perfectly, permanently to your ass. Also saves ever worrying about someone else taking your seat at game time.
Tuesday, February 21, 2006
coke with real sugar instead of corn syrup
Fighting over Oscar tickets. Oh, to have these freaking problems. Dear academy, send me one. I'll be out of debt by next week.
I've heard nothing but good about Choxie. However, as in a couple weeks I'll be swimming in Korean chocolate, I'll hold off on ordering any.
A murphy bed for pets. Dear Spirit, WHY?
This is just sad. Why not just hand out business cards to everyone you like in a club? "Ann, sco/sag cusper, into movies, Teh Intarweb, books and music of all kinds, and my kinks are beyond number--email if interested!" "Jim-Bob, don't believe in astrology, into tractors, country music, and beer, gimme a call if ya wanna maybe go fer a drink"--hey, maybe ice-breaking business cards are an idea for a custom mail-order business.
This story (related tangentially, and listed in above thread) is fascinating (but sad).
More on the Frey thing
This still has me all over the sex-related blogosphere, because of things like the comment on MeFi to the effect that those judging should read about the lifestyle from the inside. And then I can't stop clicking.
This post indirectly supports my belief that yes, there are prostitutes who are in it for themselves and satisfied with the career choice.
Did you ever catch your parents? Did it bother you? My mom walked in on me and my ex when we were newlyweds, but I don't think I ever found my folks having sex.
Fleshbot has some good info and gadgets.
Some truths about marriage (warning: PDF)
You're The Guns of August!
by Barbara Tuchman
Though you're interested in war, what you really want to know is what
causes war. You're out to expose imperialism, militarism, and nationalism for what they
really are. Nevertheless, you're always living in the past and have a hard time dealing
with what's going on today. You're also far more focused on Europe than anywhere else in
the world. A fitting motto for you might be "Guns do kill, but so can
Take the Book Quiz
at the Blue Pyramid.
You're Bikini Atoll!
You once believed that your biggest concern would be a shark attack. Now
you know just how much more destructive humans can be than any other creature. While you
don't like mushrooms, you've had to eat so many of them that it's become almost a way of
life. Exiled from your home and forced to wait for someone to clean it up, you've become
bitter but remain powerless. Most people like to gawk at those who share your
Take the State Quiz
at the Blue Pyramid.
Monday, February 20, 2006
Absinthe marketing promotes alcohol as date-rape drug? You be the judge.
When did Mary-Kate and Ashley get sophisticated?
If you're not doing anything wrong, you have nothing to fear? 1. We have a resonable expectation of privacy within our homes. To those who state that the right to privacy is a legal fallacy--it's clearly implied by intent in the fourth amendment. 2. The fact that we're doing things we might not want others to know about does not make those things illegal. 3. The fact that some things are quasi-legal does not make them wrong (see Lawrence and Garner vs. Texas--that I could probably in some places be arrested because I let a man sodomize me doesn't make it either a wrong act, an illegal act in the sense that the law punishing it is valid, or something I want the police to be allowed to witness for their own jollies).
Sunday, February 19, 2006
Bare Back Magazine looks interesting.
Since yesterday we had geek love, now it's geek sex
I have a lot of thoughts on this--mostly along the lines of, as much as I believe in kids having free creative expression, in most of the public schools I've attended, a boy going to school with his nails painted pink/gold/purple would be in physical danger from other students. I don't think I'd disallow that expression, but I'd ask the kid if he was sure the other attitudes would be tolerable or worth it.
Traditional family values strike again
I must respectfully disagree with this post. While I do agree with the points made that much prostitution does equate to slavery and human trafficking, it's the slavery that needs to be illegal--pimping needs to be illegal, not whoring. Most women are forced into it? Maybe more women would freely choose to rent their bodies out by the hour or the night (it's not "selling," now, is it?) if they could freely make that choice. Not many, of course, but maybe enough that they'd keep the pimps and thugs from controlling the business. Actually, I wanted to comment on a couple of the comments after the post, too--#6 is about what I think, and #21, God almighty, *economically* forced into it? I'm economically forced to do a job that's impossible for my body to maintain the work without threatening literal collapse from exhaustion and flaring chronic pain. Circumstances force us into all kinds of jobs. Believe me, if I could make twice my income with less than half the work hours by doing something I like doing (no matter how many hours or how repugnant the customers, I like fucking better than waitressing, and I have every reason to believe the income is far better--I just won't make career choices that end in prison--and it is not institutionalized rape unless I have lost the right--in this theoretical scenario--to refuse a customer), I'd consider it a personal career choice and my RIGHT, not a political statement one way or another. Oh, I don't disagree that those cops are way out of line. Fuckers. I just disagree that prostitution should be considered a crime against women.
A Contract of Wifely Expectations--Huh? Honey chile, you can't be doin' this in the 21st century unless you've got an honestly consensual dom/sub relationship. And if they did, she'd have signed the paper.
I'm heading all over the feminist blogs tonight. Click one and you end up following links everywhere. Anyway, this is just wrong. Here's the guy's actual profile. I've known some good folk who'd be perfect for him, but on the other hand, I hope if he finds someone and manages to breed, their offspring are more enlightened (or maybe, less so).
Sugasm gets my attention--a few of the blogs on my regular rounds are participants. For some reason I never thought to add sugasm itself to my list, though. I've added several blogs I'm not likely to read more than a couple times a week (since I require sleep sometimes). Some of them, or representative posts from them:
Lumpesse is his girlfriend--where in the South are these people and why can't I find them?
Always Aroused Girl
Sexblo.gs went on the daily list because it rounds up highlights of several major sex blogs. Not all hot, but all interesting.
NYC BDSM Boy
This is just a good title
The Holiday Life
Sabrina in Stockings
My Not So Secret Self
Hijinks is showing a prank in which they convinced kids they were banning candy sales in NYC. You'd seriously have kids making and dealing candy like dope. I would've.
Waitressing bites lately. The truth is, something minor and petty happened the other day, and it was just the straw that broke the camel's back--there's little love/respect for the staff, staying positive is just beyond me at work right now, and after 2 years of loyal hard work, I see people I was training on the floor a few months ago being moved up to bartending and keying without even asking for it--the person I object to most on these grounds, and it's not that I object to *him* like I would several other people, but he's military and in a program that has him off active duty to finish school then will be commissioned as a pilot in a matter of months, so even the possible excuse that I may not be there all that long wears thin. And I actually was his server trainer less than 6 months ago. I am now something like the 8th most senior server in the place, and among the waitstaff the third most senior employee. I'm respected very much by my co-workers--almost as in high school, I'm treated as a bit of a legend--not someone to befriend, but the person to ask about anything, work, personal, or intellectual--and it's frustrating as anything I can remember in this life that my coworkers assume that because they have that respect for me, so does management--several people, last they trained a bartender, asked me why I didn't want to do it, as though I had a choice, as though I haven't had to beg and plead for every job I've gotten to learn, though I'm acknowledged the best in the place at most of them and I work as hard as anyone and harder than most, as though other people don't just have these jobs handed to them and then complain to me that they don't want to do them.
Anyone want to hire a bitter, jaded, late 20-something server/admin? I don't have much of a resume, but I'm damned good (at waitressing and at paperwork), and can provide references.
Saturday, February 18, 2006
while you're tricking your brain... (I'm pretty good at this test, that is, tuning out the word to "read" the color, but it does take longer than processing the words)
Friday, February 17, 2006
I will never hear the end of this once my kid finds out.
OK, guys--is this idea appetizing?
A belated valentine
Is this a joke? I hope? Although the cargo jeans with the attached onesie isn't a half-bad idea. I'd have loved a jacket or shirt with a built-in front/nursing sling a few years back...
I have got to get one of these.
These sound good too.
Wow, cool. Are all/most humans with mismatched eyes chimeras, then?
liqueur pouches (with drinking license!)
Why do you need your own picture on your mint tins? I can see buying them for wedding favors.
This is neat. For some reason the applications for strip clubs strike me more than I'd want such a thing in my own bathroom.
Thursday, February 16, 2006
|Death through sex!|
You are going to die by having a heart attack during sex. This is probably because it fills up so much of your time now that if you died doing anything else, it would be going against the odds
Take this quiz at QuizGalaxy.com
You fit in with:
Your ideals mostly resemble that of a Humanist. Although you do not have a lot of faith, you are devoted to making this world better, in the short time that you have to live. Humanists do not generally believe in an afterlife, and therefore, are committed to making the world a better place for themselves and future generations.
Take this quiz at QuizGalaxy.com
The overlying picture (sort of a "you are here" star on that map) broke it, but I was exactly halfway between scientific/spiritual and all the way at the bottom--100% reason and 0% scientific. Heh. So I have some spirituality but no faith right now? Sounds about right.
Tuesday, February 14, 2006
This looks like it might replace both the google personalized home and a couple other of my homepages if I play with it some.
I like this interface better than the major blog aggregators'
"News fairly unbalanced. We report. You decipher."
Refdesk--general fact site
And a dictionary reference
Great books--includes some of the classic quotations books
Internet Public Library--unfortunately, there's a necessary lack of modern books there.
Librarians' Internet Index
If you're still with me, check out the Astronomy Pic of the Day--educational AND cool!
More cool pics
Monday, February 13, 2006
Sunday, February 12, 2006
Excellent article that outlines what bothers me in the growing tendency of the morally outraged to equate prostitution explicitly with human trafficking
AHAHAHAHAH MMO contraception... "By the time he had a level 43 character, our intimacy problems were a distant memory!" (Get 2 copies. You can cyber and it's still valid as birth control...)
This is an interesting if slightly dry read. I'd still like to check out Sociolotron sometime.
This is what an enlightened country does with its STD prevention services (as opposed to changing valid scientific data to try to destroy any sensible information on safe sex as it just encourages more sex)
Dr. Ruth's sex game (1985, text only)
Take this job and...
Doping videogame "athletes"
Cool satellite picture of one of the Augustine Island volcano eruptions
More on why men and women think differently--I wonder if they've cross-referenced this with people who apparently think as males or females, aside from their physical sexes, as in the BBC's brain sex quiz.
speaking of the BBC's articles on sex ID and the brain...
Well, then again, maybe you do need a hole in your head.
Cheesecake? No, just cheese.
Cricket's got to take a break to go pick up the laundry--my plumbing's screwed so I splurged and it feels SO good to know I'll pick up cleaned and folded clothes and linens. Happy Sunday!
Friday, February 10, 2006
Thursday, February 09, 2006
This is random but worth a read if you're at all curious about what real BDSM lifestyling is all about. Adult, not safe for work, covers sensitive adult issues, etc., etc. And he's got a point--if you're going to get into something and portray yourself as part of it, you should know what it's about. Anyway, for lifestyle or just sexual blogs, LordStar and his partner, Mim Redbeard, are worth reading.
I vote for #7 (first paragraph). Let's all be fat and happy and live as we will.
I can't imagine. I also can't imagine, as in the comments, that "what they lose in numbers, they make up in wattage." If I gained "wattage" I'd totally lose consciousness in the middle of sex. The really powerful orgasms still don't have a "refractory period" for me, though for me to get another one in the next few minutes requires someone else who cares to do all the work, because while the nerves there still work, I'm too weak to actually do anything to work for it.
Wednesday, February 08, 2006
I want to work at Google. Anyone there need an eclectic soul who's great with numbers and paperwork and general archive-type research, but somewhat undereducated and not great at coding?
This might be worth a download. Probably after I set up an external drive to free some space.
CG water. I'd like to watch this side-by-side with a real slow-motion video of water poured similarly into a glass.
But is remarkably good prose an excuse for proselytizing in the middle of an otherwise-good story?
Too cool. Only, warm.
The world's other Trekkies ain't rich enough for this.
More awwwww--scroll down for a baby aardvark and some penguin chicks.
Veggie Liberation Army manifesto
Mmmmmmmm, nuts. Something about this part of the winter makes me depressed and munchy. If I move up North I'll either need to exercise a *lot* to curb both impulses or be downright roly-poly through the spring.
While we're on junk food, I could go for some pie.
Gotta buy the kid new shoes tomorrow. His feet grew again. Other shoes only about 2 months old but he's fussing that they hurt again.
This is strange.
Second Life really is something else.
I hear this game is cool. I can't actually play it as that flash makes my computer stop doing anything. Took me 25 minutes just to shut the window and get back here. Still, if you're on something faster, have a look.
Posh porn (erotica)
The middle of this column has a point to make about texting. Don't miss it.
Aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh my EYES!
"Part of the great thing about committed togetherness is the sharing of each and every germ."
Tuesday, February 07, 2006
This article is kind of useless, but the comments are a great discussion
Monday, February 06, 2006
Sexual Intelligence--a monthly newsletter on "the sexual implications of current events, politics, technology, and the media."
Please read this if you like, or hate, Dr. Phil or Oprah. I got outright angry at a Dr. Phil episode that effectively demonized my life's choices, and it took very detailed explanation of why I was angry for my best girlfriend to realize that she had both been agreeing with Dr. Phil and with my right and ability to make the choices he was demonizing--and to realize why I was upset at all. It says more than I can say about why the American public putting so much trust in its major media figures (see Limbaugh, O'Reilly, and my comments yesterday on Judge Judy for more) is bad for us. And the thing is, it's these people who have an effect on how people think and on the way the country is run, not the much-maligned "Hollywood liberal" set--it's the people who tell you "Family Values" is about hating those who make different choices or follow different inclinations about/in regard to their bodies and their lives and their sexuality who keep us from all being allowed to be proudly, openly who we are. Everything I've seen indicates that these are decent, generous people, and I don't fault that or wish them ill--but I wish they would learn nonjudgment of those of us who choose differently. Read the article--more venomous than I'd be, but that's OK.
Since we're on sex--it isn't porn if there's a consenting adult at each end? I'd say unless they're putting on a show for a viewing audience, I agree. If I have cybersex or teledildonic sex or in-game avatar sex with a partner, it's no more inherently pornographic than it is when we're in the bedroom ('cause, you know, sex, no matter how kinky, ain't porn until there's a camera). But if there's going to be a lasting electronic record, is it porn then? Is it porn if I save the text of a cybersession and get off on it alone later though I was a participant?
Does anyone think this will actually see mass-production? Technologies that improve fuel-efficiency are bought and buried.
Totally unsubstantiated rumors that I hope have some truth
Satire: A brief history of video game violence
If you have to sell something, don't go reading about it. I'm not going to be able to sell a Chocolate Thunder from Down Under with a straight face ever again.
Sunday, February 05, 2006
Also Betty Friedan--whatever you might think of modern feminism (which term encompasses so many different philosophies as to have become meaningless), in the 50s something had to give.
Uh-huh. OK then. Yeah the military hatches fast-paced relationships that can fizzle out. A military person and a civilian fall for each other, and deep in that early infatuation, where in the civilian world there would still be a few years of dating and courting ahead, someone gets orders to somewhere far away. A TDY could mean them getting killed--while making those heady, dreamy plans for the future, there's a practical side going "I love this person, and if something happens to me, at least s/he'll be taken care of if we're married," and what young couple in that infatuation stage wants to be separated indefinitely by a PCS (especially when the gulf is a distance that makes courting difficult). It might be better for those relationships to see if they can survive the TDY before marriage plays into it, but that doesn't mean it's gonna happen. Military chaplains (at least in the specific cases of which I've been aware) require counselling (like some churches) before they'll marry you anyway, but so far, at least, they have to allow regular, civil, Vegas-style marriages as legal. Key quote: "It teaches the lovestruck to pace themselves with a R.A.M. chart - the Relationship Attachment Model - which basically says don't let your sexual involvement exceed your level of commitment or level of knowledge about the other person." --so if you're going to get hitched, you need to know the other person's bad habits and really like being around them when it's not time to party or get it on? Check.
Superbowl Sunday in Iraq
I don't care about the game (flippin' Seahawks...), but I will probably tune in for the commercials. Or get tired of them after an hour and watch the usual cartoons on Fox.
Concept cars. I hate concept cars because the ones I'd love to own (not that I could afford them if they did see production) never quite seem to make it to the showroom floor or the highway. I also love them--I can't help being fascinated and reading all about them.
If you're offended by "gay" being thrown around as insulting (or sounding like it), don't watch these.
These were listed as a soap opera. I was thinking like the old coffee ads, but this is just bizarre. I actually found myself interested in what was going on with the coffee people. Someone wrote a novel--anyone know how that story turned out?
This is one of the best comments on relationships I've ever read: "I'd rather be alone if my mate doesn't make me want to sit for an hour every morning and watch her sleep..." I can dig what the first couple comments are saying about smell, too. Not that I want to sniff someone (though I've been accused of doing so), but when you can lay your head against someone and breathe them in, you know where the chemistry lies (or doesn't).
Friday, February 03, 2006
cool knit scarf
I can't help wondering how these things come out in kids.
I couldn't write anything about this that isn't a curse word uttered in amazement. If you click nothing else today, click this.
This might be a good idea. The amount of time before just buying new toothbrushes at need would catch up to the cost in a small household is fairly large, though.
This looks cool.
More on Groundhog Day and Imbolc. Pointing out that Candlemas was an attempt to Christianize Imbolc is true enough, but putting candles in the windows is not purely Christian--a little, but the older celebrations of Imbolc involve lighting all a house's lamps or hearths.
Collectible limited edition Pez, wedding-style
Thursday, February 02, 2006
See especially the page on witchcraft for some enlightening views on the Inquisition and the Malleus Maleficarum: "When women commit sexual excesses with demons, they are prostitute-witches. When men do the same, they are the victims of prostitute-witches." (that's not in the words of the MM but the words of the website's author).
just interesting facts
Apparently people reporting stolen drugs happens all the time (according to the 911 dispatcher in the family). Most of them think better of it and disappear before the cops show up to take a statement.
If God really punished people so directly for their errors, this fruitcake would be at the top of the list.
This headline is ignorant. I'm hard to offend by usual means, and will interject with something mischievous right when people expect me to run away blushing and squeaking, but I have my own hot buttons and issues that offend me.
I have to agree that the male body can be beautiful--and if you don't believe those who say "look at Hollywood," then look at the ancient Greeks, at art through the ages.
On the end of the telegram
Review/comparisons of bittorrent clients--I like Azureus. I thought about using (mu)Torrent, but honestly it bugs the hell out of me that they use "u" for (mu), and I don't want something that drives me nuts to think about running on my computer.
This is a big issue lately, and one of the best arguments I've seen against the free-market folks. They claim free markets lead to greater innovation, yet clearly the Telcos being able to form an oligopoly have inhibited our progress compared to the rest of the world.
Blue light helps keep you alert? Sounds like something that could be useful for late-night drivers.
To Mars in an afternoon? Hells YEAH!
And some good information on relativity
In favor of hybrid autos
Wow. Someday I hope to have a house this awesome.
I guess if I had to come down on this debate I'd say to take those objects, including Pluto, off consideration for planethood.
"Can a 160-year-old man hit on a 91-year-old woman in an oxygen bar without being considered a predatory scumbag?" The answer should obviously be "yes;" a 75-year-old man hitting on a 35-year-old woman is seen as creepy and a dirty old man now, but not as a predator.
Good writeup on the SWG NGE
Remember that moment of respect I had for the prez? I'm over it.
This is so, so wrong: Brokeback to the Future
This should be wrong too, but I'm too distracted by the idea of the young Tom Cruise and the young Val Kilmer together. Damn but that's going to fuel my dreams for weeks.
Java RPG: Triglav