nice

A new take on Optimus Prime

An interesting adult game

Not at all SFW, this Luvbight gallery. Thoughts: 1. Ow. 2. That's a gorgeous tattoo.

cool

This is a nice read (very science-heavy) but I can't help but think that causality and the violation thereof is so much relativistic bullshit; "the light exits the medium before it enters it" being true from the lab frame doesn't make it absolutely true. However, if you can violate causality with light this way, bear with me, now, does that make it (theoretically and potentially, not mechanically) possible to construct a light-speed journey so that, not only does it not create the oft-posited effect by which our traveller would return from a short-to-him relativistic journey to find himself in the far future of his home, but make it possible that the longer the journey, the earlier he returns--in effect, making FTL speed a means of *backward* time travel?

(Note: I know better, but the thought experiment is fun)


I've linked to some Zen koans before, but for a different understanding of Zen, hit Zombocom or Superbad. This one gave me pause.

I must get ready for work, so before I go to the glare and harsh lines of that place I hate so, here's some of the wonder of nature for your eyes

Something to make m'love smile

The Army is relaxing its rules on tattoos

Oh, get over it. If they left the kid alone, the disruption/distraction would be over within 2 days.

Argh

Kindergarten student expelled for ten days for bringing unloaded gun to school
1. Clearly he was thinking of it as a toy, show-and-tell, what-have-you. The punishment is extreme--the child was not threatening, nor was the mere presence of a gun. The magic number is FIVE. Duh.
2. Parents should've been paying more attention or had the gun locked up as well as the ammo. No matter how careful, it only takes one bullet being accidentally left in there for tragedy to happen.

This is seriously awesome

But not this awesome. This is a different level.

Something for the kids

(more cute fuzzies)

Wow.

OK, I took something to let me sleep tonight, the house feels so empty right now, but I can feel it, and must go to bed whilst I may still walk there.

Kink vs. feminism? Key quote: "When feminists stop standing up for the choices women make, I stop recognizing them as feminists, it's that simple."

M'love and I were taking fenugreek to smell nice and mapley, but it requires maintenance, so when he left, I went back off, at least for a while. Anyway, this looks like an easier way to smell better from the inside out. Here's where you can buy the rose online, but Spirit may need to try to find the vanilla from Korea.

On beards--Spirit says the military guys have to shave because several would just sport 5 O'Clock shadow all the time if they didn't, but I still think it's silly and panders to fashion over common sense, which isn't what the uniform should be about. Have also heard that it decreases uniformity in the uniforms, makes more difference and makes it easier to pick out a target in a sea of camouflage. This makes more sense to me, but I just want them to let my man grow some manly facial hair 'cause we both like that sort of thing. (Wiki link contains more on the military's justifications). I Googled "History of Beards," because I'm sure fashion if not the laws and uniform codes have required them at various times, and those times seem to have been glossed over in the DI piece, and found an interesting article on the history of bearded babies.

hehehehe

This is awesome if you're in a weird quiet mood. I'm hurting bad today--it feels like a migraine-cum-sinus headache (one more reason I hate people using "cum" in a sexual sense and prefer "come" is the previous usage, so stop giggling). Honestly, it's probably slightly both, more the broken night's sleep combined with Spirit likely hurting from the lack of sleep and projecting it over the miles back to me.

I've known some couples who could've used this in their separations

wow.

This Ask.MeFi post was interesting. I've felt major differences by condom type. I prefer without if I feel good about my partner, but certain textures have been an enhancement. ...More on Spirit's PA later.

This makes me wish I were anywhere but here. I'm gritting my teeth and keeping this from spilling over--most of it's the stress of him going again, and I have to grit my teeth and bear handling everything for a while again, but showing it will just make the going harder, and it cannot be helped. But there is nothing beautiful or good here.

NSFW post

A spanking party

This is beautiful ( in case the NSFW tag wasn't enough warning, this is some hardcore fetishism described)

Ahahahaha

I agree on vaginal plastic surgery being useless, but I really link this for the photo collage

Here's my take on this: As long as my personal mores don't inflict on your rights to life, liberty, property, the pursuit of happiness, and all that good stuff, my morality is my own business, whether I keep my beliefs and morals in my own home or put 'em out here or on MySpace for the world to see. It's not your, the website's, or the governm ent's job to believe that (though if my personal mores violate a website's stated beliefs, I don't disagree that they have the right to take it down--me printing graphic defenses of alternative sexual practice on an SBC church's website would be indefensible)

Don't shoot the puppy

who owns the internet

Punishing people in MMOs by crucifixion

OW OW OW no friggin' WAY--Spirit and I got some piercings this weekend, bringing him to 3 and me to 10, but 1016 at once? Even if I understand that, that would put my body into some sort of shock mode for weeks. Please tell me the guy has some recovery time planned.

He's leaving again tomorrow, so this made me cry (rest of site NSFW)

The rest of my readings today have been very NSFW--I have a list of feeds I read off sugasm and blogs that those blogs link to. This ends up meaning that I've often read several of the Sugasm articles each week, but there's always something worth a read there.

ugh.

huh?

hah.

heh

Ow.

Why our screwed-up day-night cycles might be making us sick

I'm surprised that this phenomenon is as rare as all that; I read an article semi-recently stating that many performers were "nuts" and unprofessional, and one example was of a prominent singer being difficult for technicians to work with because she'd say things like the sound needed to be more "purple." While I see why this isn't entirely professional and should be translated for the more technical (or she should have her own sound crew who knows what those nuances mean to her), neither is it New Age or psychotic--I know many people who have this, though, including myself. Sounds have shapes and colors in my head, and smells have aspects of every other sense.

Traits of the passive-aggressive male

From Ask Mefi:

*FEAR OF DEPENDENCY - Unsure of his autonomy & afraid of being alone, he fights his dependency needs - usually by trying to control you.

*FEAR OF INTIMACY - Guarded & often mistrusful, he is reluctant to show his emotional fragility. He's often out of touch with his feelings, reflexively denying feelings he thinks will "trap" or reveal him, like love. He picks fights to create distance.

*FEAR OF COMPETITION - Feeling inadequate, he is unable to compete with other men in work and love. He may operate either as a self-sabotaging wimp with a pattern of failure, or he'll be the tyrant, setting himself up as unassailable and perfect, needing to eliminate any threat to his power.

*OBSTRUCTIONISM - Just tell a p/a man what you want, no matter how small, and he may promise to get it for you. But he won't say when, and he"ll do it deliberately slowly just to frustrate you. Maybe he won't comply at all. He blocks any real progress he sees to your getting your way.

*FOSTERING CHAOS - The p/a man prefers to leave the puzzle incomplete, the job undone.

*FEELING VICTIMIZED - The p/a man protests that others unfairly accuse him rather than owning up to his own misdeeds. To remain above reporach, he sets himself up as the apparently hapless, innocent victim of your excessive demands and tirades.

*MAKING EXCUSES & LYING - The p/a man reaches as far as he can to fabricate excuses for not fulfilling promises. As a way of withholding information, affirmation or love - to have power over you - the p/a man may choose to make up a story rather than give you a straight answer.

*PROCRASTINATION - The p/a man has an odd sense of time - he believes that deadlines don't exist for him.

*CHRONIC LATENESS & FORGETFULNESS - One of the most infuriating & inconsiderate of all p/a traits is his inability to arrive on time. By keeping you waiting, he sets the ground rules of the relationship. And his selective forgetting - used only when he wants to avoid an obligation.

*AMBIGUITY - He is master of mixed messages and sitting on fences. When he tells you something, you may still walk away wondering if he actually said yes or no.

*SULKING - Feeling put upon when he is unable to live up to his promises or obligations, the p/a man retreats from pressures around him and sulks, pouts and withdraws.

Bwahahahaha! (Sorry, Mr. Hayes. You'll be missed) ...hahaha...

Water and extraterrestrial life--a smart treatment on the subject

Capsaicin and prostate cancer--guys, start developing a hot-pepper habit now (I know they make external capsaicin ointments, but do they sell it as a pill supplement?)

More on the Star Wars TV show

The fuck?

Margo Howard (Ann Landers's daughter) has a column under her own name now, if anyone's missed her on Dear Prudence

Exactly. Key point for fundies:

To withhold a medicine like this because you think teens will [fail to] postpone sex if they know they're immune to HPV is appalling. First of all, they won't. Second of all, what if a girl remains virgin 'til her wedding night but her husband was wild and though he's now found Jesus and reformed, he has HPV ... does she "deserve" to contract it as well because some blithering idiots completely out of touch with sexuality, teenagers and the modern world have a religious objection to a vaccine? You don't want your daughter protected from HPV, fine, no one *requires* you to innoculate her.

There's a Foamy cartoon up that I hadn't seen

Hapland! (Have fun)

Every geek's wet dream--the Wrist PC

Periodic table--was looking the table up for the kids just yesterday, and this showed up in my regular reading last night

If you read no other essays or heady or politically-charged works in the forseeable future, please read this.

If you're a little more into politics or long essays, read this, too.

Busy times lately, will return with more links soon.

Why are we leaning more and more away from freedom of personal choice and toward policing the vices of others again? What happened to the days when the Republicans were the party of "a government small enough to drown in the bathtub," of personal freedom of choice and personal responsibility? Now Republicans are in power and still, both parties want to keep the people under control, and new restaurants can't open without their liquor licenses.

Yum.

Ditto.

Dear military friends, Bawls is doing something just for you.

The real family Von Trapp

Nice. Why don't gamers just replace all the minis with lego people?

Mmmmmmm, carbon monoxide.

Some like it hot.

Another blog

No links--haven't been online much at all--I'll have a huge backlog eventually--but for now, my new blog

One more:

The Multidimensional Scale of Sexuality

According to my answers, it is likely that I identify as
Heterosexual with some homosexuality
or equally,
Sequential bisexual.

Complete set of results

Heterosexual with some homosexuality:		4
Sequential bisexual:		4
Concurrent bisexual:		3
Homosexual:		1
Asexual:		0
Heterosexual:		0
Homosexual with some heterosexuality:		0
Past heterosexual, currently homosexual:		0
Past homosexual, currently heterosexual:		0

Information

The Multidimensional Scale of Sexuality was devised by Larry Kurdek, B. Berkey and T. Perelman-Hall. It is an extension of the Klein Sexual Orientation Grid, recognising that sexual identities can change over time, people can identify with more than one sexual identity, and that asexuality is a valid sexual identity. The Multidimensional Scale of Sexuality was published in the "Journal of Homosexuality" in 1990.

Take the quiz

Klein Sexual Orientation Grid

I scored an average of 1.86

0

1

2

3

4

5

6

Heterosexual

Bisexual

Homosexual

Meaning

This result can also be related to the Kinsey Scale:

0 = exclusively heterosexual
1 = predominantly heterosexual, incidentally homosexual
2 = predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3 = equally heterosexual and homosexual
4 = predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5 = predominantly homosexual, incidentally heterosexual
6 = exclusively homosexual

Summary

The idea of this excercise is to understand exactly how dynamic a person's sexual orientation can be, as well as how fluid it can be over a person's lifespan. While a person's number of actual homo/heterosexual encounters may be easy to categorize, their actual orientation may be completely different. Simple labels like "homosexual", "heterosexual", and "bisexual" need not be the only three options available to us.

Take the quiz

The Five Love Languages

My primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Quality Time.

Complete set of results

Physical Touch:		12
Quality Time:		7
Words of Affirmation:		7
Acts of Service:		2
Receiving Gifts:		2

Information

Unhappiness in relationships, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. Sometimes we don't understand our partner's requirements, or even our own. We all have a "love tank" that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others.

Take the quiz

Mistakes a person doesn't make twice

Well, another personal moment, here--Spirit's most-likely sitting sleepy and headachy in Tokyo waiting for his flight... I had barely time to make my flights when I travelled to and from RoK, but he's got 7-8 hour layovers at every step. So I'm watching Hidalgo and wondering if I will be able to sleep.

Also, I bought a RAZRv3 today. If anyone knows how to get the PhoneTools to actually transfer images/ringtones to and from the phone, drop me a comment.